Oral sex is fun, so double the heads should be double the fun, right? We love a BOGO deal! That’s why the 69 sex position is one of the most discussed sex positions.
The 69 is the perfect balance of giving and receiving, but it can be hard to reach that balance when you’re straddling over your partner’s face on a lumpy mattress. With some preparation and adjustments, 69 can be way better than a D+.
What Is the 69 Position?
In the classic 69 position, one partner lies on their back while the other straddles their face looking toward their feet, and bends forward so each partner can perform oral sex on the other. Think the circles of 6 and 9 as heads, and the tails as pointy genitals.
The benefits are clear: we’ll never say no to more trips downtown.
But, the 69 position can be tough because it requires intense multi-tasking. Sex can requires a lot of concentration, like relaxing enough to have an orgasm, but not so much that you fart. Now we’re supposed to control our tongues under these conditions, too?
These tips can help.
5 Tips to Make the 69 Position Better
1. Take a Foreplay Shower
You’re going to be in close contact with some musky areas. Take some time to freshen up before you’re nose-deep in each other’s business. Use your loofah to tease and scrub the areas you’re about to be sniffing.
2. Switch Who’s on Top
Traditionally in the 69 position, the larger partner is on the bottom and the lighter person is on top. But there’s no reason to stick to that. If you’re thicker than your partner, don’t be afraid to get on top. If they suffocate, get a sturdier partner next time. Or buy them a snorkel.
3. Play with Toys
Toys make everything more fun. So, keep a vibrator nearby for when your tongue starts to cramp up. Use an insertion toy to combine G-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation for mind-blowing, blended orgasms.
4. Use Support Pillows
Place pillows under your neck and lower back for comfort and to give each other better access. If you don’t have good support, check to see if your insurance covers chiropractic treatment for sex injuries. Otherwise, you’ll have to crack your own neck back into place.
5. Add Anal Play
In the 69 position, you can access the front door and the back door. Keep heading back for more to explore. Just never move back to front, unless you want a UTI.
69 Position Variations
1. Sideways 69
Instead of one partner on top, both partners lie down facing each other. This is a great option for couples with a Kristen Bell-Dax Shepard height difference, because the taller partner can curve their body to line up with the shorter’s heads and genitals. You also don’t have to worry about hovering your butt over your partner’s nose.
2. Dominating 69 Position
When you’re on top, be the top. Get kinky by dominating your 69-ing partner. With a safe word, of course. (Spaghetti squash will never be the same.)
3. Take Turns
It can be hard to concentrate on your own pleasure when you’re worried about accidentally chomping down on your partner like a hot dog. Take turns bringing each other to the brink, and then switch. The build up will lead to explosive orgasms. And no bite marks.
4. 69 Position on the Edge
Lay with your head hanging off the edge of the bed. Your partner stands next to the bed and bends forward over you. This puts your head at the perfect angle for deep throating.
5. The 68
68: You’ll do me, and I’ll owe you one. Have your partner get into the classic 69 position, lying face up on the bed, but with their knees bent. Then you lay on top with your head towards their legs, but face up instead of face down. Hey, how long has the ceiling crack been up there?
Place your butt on their back and lay back on their legs. Like the queen you are, you’ll be receiving while sitting on your partner like a throne. Put a pillow under your partner’s head so they’ll be able to serve you all night.